How Are You?
Hi! How are you?
It’s been a couple weeks since I last posted! Life has been busy as I started my second semester of yoga teacher training, it’s quarter-end at work, and Taylor and I bought a condo! I know, it was very fast and pretty unexpected for us as well, but we’re really excited about it 😊
So here I am, writing to you on a Monday night, which is not my normal routine and I didn’t plan to do this tonight, but I was inspired to share the following message today. I hope you enjoy!
Today marks the beginning of Mental Health Week in Canada. As I’ve mentioned before, mental health is just as important as physical health, however, our society still has a lot of stigma around mental health. Today I was having lunch with a friend and she asked me how I am, I replied with “good” and she said “but really, how are you?”. Now that’s a good friend.
“How are you?” is such a common phrase. We often greet each other with “Hi, how are you? Good, thanks, how are you? Good.” But we don’t often go any deeper than that, and it leads me to question why we even bother asking the question if we don’t expect or want to provide an honest response.
What if I challenged you for this week to reply with an honest answer when someone asks you how you are, or to really care about the person’s response when you ask the question? How would that feel?
One day at work I ran into a colleague and asked him how he was doing. He gave me a very honest answer. It wasn’t the most positive answer, but it was honest, and that was so refreshing. Not many people are willing to open up like that, me included. That’s why we resort to “good” and the other person just accepts it.
I’m going to keep this post short, but all I’m trying to say is that asking someone how they are and looking for an honest answer is a very thoughtful thing to do. I believe it has the power to change someone’s day. You never know what someone else may be going through, and your caring question may just be the connection they need that day to feel heard and seen and respected. So why don’t we all give it a try this week? Ask someone how they are, seriously, and try to get a better answer than “good”. And vice versa, when someone asks how you are, give them a better answer than “good”. See how it feels.
We live in a busy world but there is often a lack of real connection. I believe this is something we are all craving. So, in honour of Mental Health Week, let’s all give it a try.
I’m here for anyone who needs someone to talk to.
So, tell me, how are you?